
Now, some of my readers know that I have problems understanding how and why personal family photographs show up at yard sales, flea markets, or out by the curb for the trash truck. I truly just don't get it. Maybe it is because some of my ancestors would never have sat for a photograph, and I will never know what they looked like. When this is the case, it makes family pictures just a little more precious.
As I mulled it over in my head again and again, a different explanation started to form. One in which Irene's life was meaningless because she made unconventional choices. She did not marry, did not produce children, and so what? Was her legacy worth far less? It made me sad, and I admit, a bit angry that this has been the fate of this woman's treasured photographs. I had a great aunt myself who lived roughly the same years as Irene, who never married. In a fantastic coincidence, her name was also Irene. And when she passed on, our family wanted every scrap of her treasured papers and pictures. Why wouldn't Irene's great-nieces and nephews feel the same? I kept thinking about those albums, thinking about their uncertain fate, and how unappreciated they were as they changed hands from seller to seller. How no one could see the unique history and experiences that Irene carefully documented, such as pictures of her brothers in a conscientious objector camp in Tampa. And a brother who served in the army during the war. What a shame. Real history.
I don't mean to be so hard on the family. It could be that the very person who will appreciate these is not yet old enough to, or has not yet been born. So I wanted to figure out a way to make these accessible to that next generation.
And so, I bought them. I made up my mind to at least get them off of the market and paid a hefty price, with the plan being to donate them to the Lancaster Menn. Historical Society where they could be preserved in their archives. If they wanted them. Thankfully, they want them very much. They have some books Irene wrote in their collection, and with the economy being the way that it is and them being a non-profit, it was unlikely that they could have purchased them right now.
When I got the albums, a funny thing happened. I thought that I would feel sentimental about the pictures, and see them through the lens of my heart almost as an extended family. But that didn't happen. They looked like unwanted strangers, waiting at a train station for a train that never arrives. They all looked that way except for the pictures of Irene, who was starting to feel strangely familiar and comforting. Was she the black sheep of her family? You and me both, sister.
So before I take these precious pictures over to LMHS, I thought I would share a few with my readers.


Hello My name is Jayme Bickford and your blog is one that I read daily just to see what is going on. I agree about the pictures. I worked in an Auction house for a little while and we would get pictures in to sell. The auctioneer always told the people that if you didn't have any family you could buy these pictures and give 'em names like Uncle Fred and Aunt Mrytle ;) and have a ready made family. You can e-mail me if you like bickford16@yahoo.com.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jayme (35 yr old mother of 3 girls Beth 7 Sammi 4 Suzy 4 mths)
I'm so glad you rescued these photo albums! It is sad that none of the family is interested in them.
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling that years from now some of her great neices and nephews will see them at the Historical Society and wonder why anybody wanted to part with them.
Jayme- I believe than phenomena where people buy old pictures and call them family is called "instant ancestors."
ReplyDeleteJoyful- I had the same feeling! Some day, *someone* will want to see these.
Old photos are treasures and with the way technology is now (even at Walgreens), you can get copies that look sometimes better than the originals. There's something about an original photo though that has meaning. Everyone in her family could have those pictures if they wanted - that makes me a little sad, too, that they're not wanted for whatever reason. Maybe they already have lots and these were extras?? No one will know.
ReplyDeleteAnd Monica, you're the black sheep in your family?? I believe you because you said it, but you're just too precious!!! Maybe it's a "black" family and you're the white sheep!! Ahhhhh, families.